A Change in Perspective can be a Change in You
Tania Hormozi, PsyD, LMFT
Every year, people make resolutions in the beginning of the year.
And they are able to work on them within the first month of January, until they get busy with work, school, and other things; after a while, theresolution tends to fade away by the time May or June rolls around. Every year, people are able to make goals for themselves to go to therapy, work on themselves by meditating, or engaging in a particular exercise routine to become healthier, and help themselves grow and work on being more present and positive. As humans, we continue to work towards not personalizing situations, allow things to hurt us or make us feel as though we are taken advantage of, or we learned from our mistakes in previous years. As a therapist, we encourage our clients to do their best, and be their best, and be more mindful of their actions, their words, and how they perceive themselves and others; and as therapists we strive to do the same for ourselves.
However, being mindful these days takes more than the ‘one day at a time’ mantra, or practicing more yoga, or knowing what you are eating, or who you are socializing with. We need to be able to bounce our ideas off other people, whether it’s our friends, family, significant others, or our therapists. We all need a new perspective on our current situation, the changes we want to make, the goals we are working towards, and who we want to identify as. Whether we see ourselves as an individual, a father, mother, sister, brother, boyfriend, wife, or even a friend, and employee. Otherwise, what is life without seeing a new perspective, letting go, and venting to someone outside of the bubble.
Every year, people are able to make goals for themselves to go to therapy, work on themselves by meditating, or engaging in a particular exercise routine to become healthier, and help themselves grow and work on being more present and positive.
Each year, we take a look at our blessings, new opportunities, new people in our lives, new friends, new adventures, planning trips, etc. Taking some alone time to think, reflect, write, and be creative, allows us to connect with our inner selves to figure out who we are, and what we need to work on.
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The Importance of Reflection
This summer, take some time to sit and reflect on what you initially wanted your New Year’s resolutions to be, and look like. Explore what you have already accomplished, and create a new resolution for the rest half of the year so that you are able to feel productive, and closer to what your ultimate goals in life are for yourselves. Imagine a time when you can look back on the year, appreciate and feel grateful for accomplishing more than one new year’s resolution, for achieving more than one way of thinking, and identifying a new perspective in life.
Allow yourself to learn, motivate, encourage, and be more assertive in your life, so that you are able to accomplish goals, be a better person, listen to your symptoms, and your body when it tells you it’s time to take a break, or when it’s time to change old behaviors; so that each year, every summer, and every new year, you are able to confront a new part of you that needs some TLC.
What It Takes to Change
We don’t change or become better people sitting in front of our computers, our phones, or our TVs. We become better people, we grow, we learn, we change by taking a step in the right direction. That direction is your way of seeking a therapist, trying a new exercise routine, eating healthier, or thinking more positive with each day that goes on.
Take some time to sit and reflect on what you initially wanted your New Year’s resolutions to be, and look like.
Don’t think that just because it is already the summer, that your time ran out to accomplish your goals. This year is about you and what you want to do. Be the best you can be, and work on the smaller obstacles first, and before you know it, you have changed to be the better part of you.
Having a clear purpose can be the greatest motivator for change. Read about how you can work with a purpose here.