Practice self-compassion by acknowledging your guilt and giving it a name. Or call it what the world has tagged it—survivor’s guilt (i.e., pandemic guilt, coronavirus guilt, thriver guilt). This will help you to take the pressure off yourself.
I’m not sure if the dangers of hiding things away and pretending to be something you’re not are things we inherently know as humans, but somehow gets muddled over time by what our anxiety and fear does to push it away.
Let’s get brave together and let go of Shame and Judgment.
Don’t stop reading if you read that last paragraph and thought…”if she thinks she isn’t getting enough done, then I’m a total failure.” This is the art of comparison and why we all feel so small, inadequate, and like failures most of the time. You still with me….
Most women today feel that if they are not completely exhausted by the end of the day, that they haven’t done enough. Because it feels like there’s always more to do.
You are the most perfect mom for your child. Keep striving towards being your best and breathe through the pain and discomfort that growing and changing can create. Parenting is the business of guiding novice human beings into being kind, compassionate and understanding people. You have to work at it, but you can definitely do it.